Junes back, and with June we get summer, bees, shorts, and Gay Pride (YASSS!)
Its a time to reflect on how far the LGBTQ community has come over the years, from outlawed, to stonewall, to modern day society, it does beg the question, “how okay is gay today?”
From the original Stonewall riots, the early pioneering gay activists, fighting for the right to just ‘be’, up to RuPaul’s Drag Race, gay culture has had a rich, diverse, and impossibly exciting past.
Pride can be a time to let down your hair, strap on a pair of kinky boots or whatever takes your fancy and just let loose, but its important to remember why we have pride in the first place.
LGBTQ culture has often been seen as the behind the scenes cousin or whatever, to the heteronormative lifestyle, but in recent years we have seen some change, by far, not enough, but change nonetheless. This includes LGBTQ characters and plots in major Movies and TV Programmes, and the aforementioned RuPaul’s Drag Race has become a phenomenon of epic proportions, both LGBTQ and heteronormative culture inclusive.
Inclusive… is an interesting word. Because ultimately isn’t that what we’re all looking for? To feel included, to belong, to be loved and wanted and needed; society has a lot of drains on all of us, be us straight, gay, bi or trans, or any other colour of that rainbow you want to be, you belong to something; the human race.
Pride month is a really great time to be exactly that, proud. But remember, be proud of your community, your past, your brothers and sisters and family (both literally and figuratively), if you cant be proud of every single member of that rainbow then your only pride is within yourself.
Growing up Gay, at least for me, wasn’t easy. I grew up in the North East of England, through the nineties and early noughties, so it wasn't all boys boys boys. Sadly I really felt excluded, lost in a crowd of angry, confused, bigoted straight boys (or at least at the time, I cannot tell you how many of them are out and proud now!) but it just wasnt the done thing back then, or there. I even got my own little nickname of sorts, “Cinderfella” looking back on, I actually LOVE that, embracing it all now, but I’m in a much more comfortable place both physically and emotionally, back then, it hurt, a lot and I feared for my life.
I always tried to remind myself, it could be worse, it could still be illegal, but your own personal hell can be too much to take sometimes. Needless to say, time heals all wounds, and this too shall pass, and it did.
Its weird for me, to think back to those days of fear and uncertainty, because now I feel so liberated and free, able to do anything I should want to, but there are so many young kids, even fully grown adults, who are still terrified of the idea, and that is not okay - let Pride Month 2018 be the best one yet, and, of course, no one can really say it any better than Mama Ru herself…
“…And remember, if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”
PS - for a limited run, featured brand Cockheart have The most sickening pride print tee available, and everyone here at concept store Y loves it! so, wear yours, with Pride, and show Cockheart and yourself, some Love! ❤️